When you know who you are, no one's validation is needed.
With that said, I'll never understand the male species.
Meet a guy, he pursues you. Follows you, DMs you for those digits so he can text you chapter books about his feelings, woos you with surprises, says good morning and goodnight religiously, creeps on your Facebook and IG, likes all your pics from 387 weeks ago then when he finally gets into your head, and finally gets you to crack and open up, the texts stop, the likes stop, the cuteness stops ... The effort stops. He makes such a point to intentionally go against what he had done to get you, that he forgets what he needs to do to keep you.
"Oh, can't like that pic because she's in it ... Let me instead like her friends pic." ... Like we aren't going to see it?? Boy, we done saw it, liked it, commented on it and creeped on her best friend's sister's cousin's ex boyfriend's step mom's page. Get real! We know about it and it's shady.
"Oh, can't text her good morning ... Let me instead post on IG so she can see I'm up and at it and not texting her." ... Boy, we know you're awake because we done saw the green bubble on your Facebook indicating you've been online since baby girl checked it 47.6 minutes ago.
Or maybe that's just it ... Maybe women are just insane ... and men think they need to play hard and flip the script to keep them. Or maybe THAT'S it ... Men just don't think while women overanalyze every scenario and have a reason and excuse for every little action he's shown.
I don't know the right answer, but I've come to one conclusion through this analysis ... Too often, females adapt to being called "crazy" when really, they're just acting quite normal in an abnormal relationship.
What women need to understand is that a man who plays games is not a man ... He is a boy. And a woman who plays the fool is not a woman ... She's a girl. Boys need to stop going after women and girls need to stop thinking every boy is a man. The minute your dude or woman can't appreciate, respect and support what you do, who you are and what you believe in is the minute you need to go about your business without his or her validation. A man who makes a woman feel like she needs to compete with other women is not the man for you, me or anyone with some self-respect. And that door swings both ways. It's unattractive, it's frustrating, it's unfair, it's shady and above all, it's hurtful.
This is why people say "love yourself" first ... Because when you learn to love yourself before others, you'll never tolerate anything less than what you deserve. Stop letting boys be mean to you and stop being friends with girls who let them. Grow up, become a woman and let a man find you. No distance, time, obstacle, excuse----NOTHING will keep a man from pursuing a woman he feels is right for him. Scouts honor!
Special thank you to Andrew Spruill for being my male model in these photos and to Carl Dawson from Living Exposure for the beautiful work, yet again. Friends like them are hard to find! <3